My wife and I are working on a book together right now on this topic. It will be published and available early next year, but in the meantime we will share some of our tips and advice.
In every home, it is vital that at least one of you takes the responsibility to be the Peacemaker. Now it is even better if you are both assuming this responsibility, because it is almost impossible to avoid misunderstandings, hurts, and stress over money in any home. The question is not if you will have stress and arguments, but how you will resolve them.
Nicky Gumbel, founder of the Alpha Course, has a wonderful way to frame the role of the peacemaker. It is worthy of writing on a note and posting it in your home to see everyday.
The first to apologize is the bravest.
The first to forgive is the strongest.
The first to forget is the happiest.
Just this week, Ann and I had a spat about something – unimportant. I went in to my office to begin working on the book and was reminded of this method to make peace. I immediately got up, went back to the kitchen and apologized. Ann burst out laughing. She said, “You beat me to it! I wanted to be first to apologize.” We both work at being the peacemaker in our home and it makes working together on our finances so much easier. Don’t get me wrong, we have made tons of mistakes, but we have overcome them through the Lord’s help. We know you can too. Put this in to practice and let me know how it goes for you.
Crown’s annual Gathering is taking place late October in beautiful Asheville, North Carolina just as the gorgeous Fall leaves are turning color. I invite you to join us this year for teaching, training, and fellowship. We will have expert speakers, reports from around the world, wonderful worship and even a comedian as we celebrate our 40th Anniversary. Please consider joining us to celebrate all God has done. Learn more at Crown.org.
Chuck Bentley is the CEO of Crown, the largest Christian financial ministry in the world, founded by the late, Larry Burkett. He is an author, host of My MoneyLife - a daily radio feature, and a frequent speaker on the topic of Biblical financial principles. Follow him on Twitter @chuckbentley and visit Crown.org for more help.